April 21, 1931 ~ August 8, 2020 (age 89)


April 21, 1931 – August 8, 2020

In the Early morning on August 8, 2020, Thomas Alan Barker died peacefully at the age of 89, at home with his son and daughter-in-law by his side in Sonoma County. Thomas was born the proud son and only child of CPL Lancie T and Marie A Barker, at Fort Totten Army Hospital in New York on April 21, 1931.

At a young age Thomas moved with his parents to the San Francisco Bay Area. Later graduating from Sacred Heart High School, and San Francisco State University where he pursued his love of vocal and theatrical performances. Throughout his youth, and life you would find Thomas performing in many USO shows, and community theatre throughout the Bay Area. As a young man he followed in his father’s footsteps and joined the US ARMY at age 18 and served very proudly beside his father in food service. This would lead to a diverse military career of 30 years, formally retiring in 1991 at the age of 60. One could have a great understanding of his love and pride for his country, by the many service achievement, good conduct, skills and humanitarian service medals and ribbons he received throughout his career.

Thomas’s love of his country was surpassed by the greatest love of his life, his only child Steven. As such a loving, proud, supportive father to his son, he instilled his true family values, commitment, and beliefs, and never missed one of his son’s baseball games or performances. He was a man who always put others before himself in life. Thomas’s love and commitment were unmatched and highly regarded among friends, and family. He was the favorite “Uncle -Dad” to many of Steven’s classmates and friends for over four decades. He was the chosen and so proud Godfather to several cousins and friends.

Thomas was an active member of the Corte Madera Lions Club for many years and served as their President one year. A proud, loyal, and active member of “The Good Guys” (a group of retired Veterans) who meet weekly for lunch at numerous bay area restaurants. There was never a place that someone would not recognize him, with a friendly smile and a hello greeting. Throughout the 70’s-80’s Tom enjoyed many nights performing with his son Steven, friends Larry and Joan at San Rafael Joe’s in the Lounge just for the love and fun of it!

Preceded in death by his Grandparents Ellen and William Barker, Mother and Father, Marie and Lancie Barker, Steven’s mother, Patricia Ann Schomp, and Shelagh Kew Barker, several loving cousins, and dear friends. Tom is survived by his son, Steven Kent Barker...and his “adopted sister” Barbara Johnson.

Thomas’ final words – “I LOVE YOU”

Due to COVID-19 private services for immediate family only currently 10 or less. After COVID-19 his family will host a Celebration of Life TBD in 2021. Donations can be made to Sacred Heart Cathedral Preparatory, San Francisco, CA in his name, in lieu of flowers.

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